I have found that, as I am finding my voice in this blog, trying to title all my posts beginning with the letter “G”, is very confining and restrictive to my creative process. So, as you can see with Chapter 6, I am changing that.” This post is going to be a little different. It is more about my feelings around the changes that have happened since my last entry and less about what we have actually done.
“We can’t expect one person to show up in every situation to the capacity we need and that’s why we’re so lucky to have the diversity of friendships that we have.” Amiright?
The quote is from a conversation I had with a couple friends about the passing of our friend and the transition in our adventure. In attempting to process the passing of my friend I was still trying to be present and supportive as we made the trip from Montreal to Quebec City on Sunday. Dave had been on vacation for the past two weeks and was returning to work the next day. We were understandably having feelings around that. It is frustrating when emotions, albeit all very valid, sometimes manifest themselves in unintended ways. It just goes to show that even with a ton of work we can still stumble. To error is to be human and I am grateful to be human and alive. It is a great place to be.
That experience gave me an important reminder that, even though it is just Dave and I physically on this adventure, we are not alone. We can’t [it isn’t fair to] expect each other to have the capacity to show up the exact way the other needs in every situation. That is why it is so amazing to be incredibly blessed with the diversity of friendships [relationships] that we have. Our circle is still here with us, wherever we are, to help carry us through the times when we may fall short, and to lift us up in times of joy. It was also a good reminder/realization to have early on in our adventure as we will be going through many of these changes/seasons/transitions together. We also need to remember to give ourselves grace as we’ve only been out of our house 30 days and on the road 17. We have plenty of time and a lot to learn. These situations are all part of the adventure. What we hope to gain from this is an opportunity to grow, and level up.
The last two weeks were incredible. We finished three wonderful days in Montreal on Sunday and now we’re beginning two weeks in Quebec City. Normally at this point our vacation would be over and we would be disappointed that we had to return to work. Not this time though. Our adventure has just begun.
Yesterday was my first day of solo exploration. I am excited to get to know Quebec City over the next couple weeks. It is SUCH a cute city and there is so much to explore. It is a new season with Dave working and I am excited about it. I am excited to speak French and immerse myself in a different culture.
I am glad that I have this blog as a way to check in and reflect on the experience. It helps keep me present and reminds me to live in gratitude. Gratitude for this opportunity to really BE and live unapologetically.
My blog will now be a tribute to my friend’s passing at the entirely too young age of 42. Life is short. We will never know how much time we have. Don’t take anything for granted. Never miss an opportunity to tell the people you love that you love them. I love you!
